Counseling to help you attain success and reach your full potential.

There’s a well-known quote by George Bernard Shaw who said “Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.”

I understand why so many people find that quote appealing, but in my experience, it misses the mark a little bit.

I think the reason that “finding yourself” gets such a bad rap, is that most people don’t know how to do it, and they try to do it alone.  It’s perceived as aimless wandering, and we don’t want to search aimlessly, we want to take control.

I am 100% for creating, taking control, and putting in the hard work, but knowing yourself is the foundation of it all; it’s a prerequisite.   When we try to create ourselves without knowing and understanding ourselves first, what we end up with is an artifice – a false self-image that takes energy to maintain.  There is a better way.

If you have had or have known any young children, you’ll realize that we don’t come into this world as a blank canvas.  Each individual has a unique personality, interests and affinities, talents and motivations, challenges and obstacles.  In a perfect world, our uniqueness would be noticed, nurtured, celebrated and encouraged.  In reality, we often lose touch with who we are, we develop survival skills, strategies for coping with the circumstances we’re born into, we get hurt and we armor ourselves, we often attempt to create ourselves into what we think others want us to be.

I have found time and time again, that the answer isn’t changing yourself – it’s coming back to yourself and being more of yourself.  There is nothing I enjoy more than helping people get back to the truth of who they are, discover their strengths, and reach their fullest potential.